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So I'm not going to address this whole list of responses to comments you twisted around in order to be offended. I'm not dying on a hill of refusing to treat trans people with respect, my entire comment was aimed at cautioning against getting bent out of shape when people struggle a little bit with a new (to them) bit of culture and language.
Yes, we all understand that it's not 'hard', but no matter how much you want everyone to see it your way, treat it with as much importance as you do, to some it's going to take a bit and if you take that as an attack and attack back, you're doing more harm than good.
My takeaway from the entire conversation is that if someone refuses to make a good faith effort at using a preferred pronoun, they're a dick. If someone understands the importance and makes a moderate good faith effort but struggles getting it right and you judge or mock them for it, you're the dick. And that second audience is bigger than you give credit for.
Unless you're providing statistical evidence to back up your claims, I'm not interested in discussing further.
You can continue making whatever excuses you want to justify your mild transphobia, but I'm done debating with you, and haven't even read this response because it's nonsense.
Whatever excuse you need to justify how an individual's request for you to respect their pronouns, their identity as a human being, is up for debate because it somehow inconveniences you.
Statistical significance of what? The number of people who vaguely see that gender identification is important to some people, but who don't quite get why is such a big deal so they don't spend a lot of time thinking about it, which results in some people being somewhat offended sometimes?
What i mean by people taking advantage of the movement for attention has less to do with statistical significance and more to do with the fact that most people hear or experience very little information about gender dysphoria outside of very vocal or exaggerated examples. Is that statistically significant? I'll try to answer that if you can give me even a ballpark number that you think would define either side of that equation, with the overwhelming guess being that you have no more idea than i do. My examples are anecdotal just like im guessing you're are.