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Choosing the urinal next to another man.
Really feels kinda gay, though, especially when the dude next to you squints over.
This isnt even a gay thing, this is a social and privacy/personal space issue. Don't pick stalls that are far apart because "it's gay," do it because other people might feel uncomfortable being near other human beings period (might get stabbed or robbed, might get harassed, or might just have extreme social anxiety - the most likely) while their privates are exposed and they're in the middle of something.
Unless there are huge dividers between each one. Then it doesnt matter as much.
If dividers weren't shorter than most moderately tall dudes I wouldn't care but I've caught one to many weirdos taking a peek over the wall to ever be comfortable with someone in the next urinal.
I always comment "Nice watch," to friends for a laugh.
I'd rather choose the stalls than pee next to another guy. Especially if there's no divider or a low divider that is practically useless
Same. Itβs not even a sexual thing, I just have a shy bladder and physically cannot make myself go if I can feel someone elseβs presence nearby, even if itβs not a stranger.
Safety in numbers. I can't pee unless I'm standing next to another bro
I feel the same way. I feel weird and it takes the other person to finish, wash hands, and walk out before I get started.
I was a dumbass accidentally once. Three urinals, I chose the middle one. A father and son walk in and have a conversation through my head, across the top of me peeing.
Go for an end urinal guys. Just sayin.