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Do lesbians have a concept of Top and Bottom? (lemmy.world)

submitted 2 months ago by stoicmaverick@lemmy.world to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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It's been a long ol time since I've known any lesbians well enough to ask such things, but I followed my brain down a weird line of inquiry, and got to wondering about the current state of the art for the gay gals. I guess I had always assumed it was similar to the dynamics of a gay guy relationship, but then I realized that since men have both an input and an output, they can choose, but it's mechanically a bit different for cis women. Is there any relationship between that, and the slightly more masculine versus feminine flavors? Asking for a friend, who is me. I want to know. Thanks.

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[–] psycotica0@lemmy.ca 10 points 2 months ago (1 children)

I think the reason people are jumping to BDSM community terms is because BDSM people fucking love terms. They've got taxonomy for days, and they live to whip it out, so to speak.

[–] captainlezbian@lemmy.world 2 points 2 months ago

It’s also because like half the time a woman refers to herself as topping a woman that’s the context