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Small talk is an essential skill (lemmy.world)

submitted 3 weeks ago by The_Picard_Maneuver@lemmy.world to c/whitepeopletwitter@sh.itjust.works

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[–] yokonzo@lemmy.world 61 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

It's not small talk if you love the other person

[–] sugar_in_your_tea@sh.itjust.works 1 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

It certainly can be.

If I'm making smalltalk with my SO, it's because there's something more weighty I want to discuss, but I'm looking for a way to broach that topic in a better way. So regardless of how I feel about them, it's still an issue because it means I don't feel safe to attack the topic head-on.

[–] yokonzo@lemmy.world 2 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago)

That feels like a communication strategy tailored to your relationship rather than small talk. small talk, in my opinion, is meaningless banter without motive. This may be pedantic, but I just don't think I would classify that as smalltalk, since there's an objective and I'm theoretically engaged, I personally would have no issue with it.

It's when there's seemingly "no point" that I consider it difficult