chapotraphouse

This is true when you have the choice, but sometimes you have to work with these people, or they're at family meetings (assuming you are fine with most of the family), or they spontaneously hatecrime you on the train out of fucking nowhere. Not engaging with reactionaries is a good idea in general, but if that's achievable in practice varies a lot. I try to decenter straight people, men, boomers etc. in my life as much as possible and spend a lot of time in my comfy woke bubbles, and it does me a lot of good, but there's limits to how far i can realistically take that.