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When I was looking for a partner just someone that would listen to my crazy ramblings about things I enjoy and constant changing of topics (ADHD or whatever). Basically just show an interest in things I find interesting.
I've completely stopping looking for a partner in the last few years, fell into a depression hole and don't see any light at the moment. Just keeping my head above water mostly these days.
That's one of my favorite traits in my partner. She's great at keeping the conversation going, which is important, because I'm terrible at it lol
When we get high together, there's usually about an hour period, that I call her Wikipedia time, where she finds a random topic, and has to talk about it at length
Are we married?
You have to get out of your daily cycle to find someone. Dating apps suck. Meetups are fantastic to meet new people and develop new friend circles. It's how I met my best friend, and my life evolved from there. Don't give up. You'll find someone eventually.
BRO DATING APPS ARE SOOOOO BAD FOR PEOPLE WITH MENTAL DISORDERS-
Got a comment from a guy once and he said "Damn, I bet that autistic ADHD pussy go crazy."
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As a man its even worse, most of the time I dont even get a response when I write something to a match. Its also hilarious, I have never had a woman write me first either (except from a girl from east asia who was probably looking for a sugar daddy or something like that).
And no, I dont write anything insulting like you get, although its probably also not 100% normal, being that I am also ASD and ADHD.
What sort of meetups would you recommend to find a partner?
Well, for starters, there are hobby related meetups. I did boardgames and made several friends through that. There are also Singles meetups for certain age ranges. Where they go to go to bars, breweries, or other activities - essentially somewhere where they can meet and talk. My best friend met his current wife at one. Check them out. You'd be surprised what's available. There are book clubs, sports leagues, etc.
Find something that interests you, and maybe you'll make a connection with someone.