I remember internalizing stuff I wanted to say and thinking "I might as well not say anything ever" and "I don't know why I'm participating in this conversation when I can't say anything"

It's depressing every time it happens.

[–] KomfortablesKissen@discuss.tchncs.de 24 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) (2 children)

Yeah. And everyone acts butthurt when I just walk out of the conversation and go to people that are willing to engage in dialogue. Or to get something to eat or worthwhile to do. It gets worse when I state the reason.

[–] stoly@lemmy.world 10 points 2 months ago

Neuraltypicals tend not to have any experience with other styles and react against them strongly.

[–] MystikIncarnate@lemmy.ca 9 points 2 months ago (1 children)

I've made it pretty normal for me to simply leave. Pretty much all of my friends and associates know that I don't really say goodbye, I just leave.

Whether that applies to a group conversation or an event. My logic is simple, people who announce they're leaving, IMO, are looking for a reason to stay half the time. Everyone coos over it, like awww don't go, blah blah, fake placating talk about how much they like having you there even though they haven't said more than ten words to you the whole time....

Fuck that noise. I want to leave, so I leave. I always make a point to tell at least one person that I'm going so that if anyone asks, they can say I left, simply for informational reasons.

[–] Szyler@lemmy.world 3 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago)

I haven't thought about it like that before. When I told my ex I want to leave a party she would say "we're leaving" and keep talking for 20 minutes. I'm like "wtf? We said we're leaving, why aren't we leaving". She used to say "slowly leaving". And it always frustrated me. As there is no slowly leaving. There's leaving and there's not leaving.