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General trans community.
Rules:
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Follow all blahaj.zone rules
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All posts must be trans-related. Other queer-related posts go to c/lgbtq.
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Don't post negative, depressing news articles about trans issues unless there is a call to action or a way to help.
Resources:
Best resource: https://github.com/cvyl/awesome-transgender Site with links to resources for just about anything.
Trevor Project: crisis mental health services for LGBTQ people, lots of helpful information and resources: https://www.thetrevorproject.org/
The Gender Dysphoria Bible: useful info on various aspects of gender dysphoria: https://genderdysphoria.fyi/en
StainedGlassWoman: Various useful essays on trans topics: https://stainedglasswoman.substack.com/
Trans resources: https://trans-resources.info/
[USA] Resources for trans people in the South: https://southernequality.org/resources/transinthesouth/#provider-map
[USA] Report discrimination: https://action.aclu.org/legal-intake/report-lgbtqhiv-discrimination
[USA] Keep track on trans legislation and news: https://www.erininthemorning.com/
[GERMANY] Bundesverband Trans: Find medical trans resources: https://www.bundesverband-trans.de/publikationen/leitfaden-fuer-behandlungssuchende/
[GERMANY] Trans DB: Insurance information (may be outdated): https://transdb.de/
[GERMANY] Deutsche Gesellschaft für Transidentität und Intersexualität: They have contact information for their advice centers and some general information for trans and intersex people. They also do activism: dgti.org
*this is a work in progress, and these resources are courtesy of users like you! if you have a resource that helped you out in your trans journey, comment below in the pinned post and I'll add here to pass it on
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I need to do better about loving myself. Any tips? lol
It's really fucking hard and seems to be person dependent. For me, self care helps a great deal. Trying to be as put together as I can helps me feel like there is less for me to focus on and nitpick.
I can't go into a weird dysphoria spiral because I haven't shaved my face in a few days if I shaved last night for example.
Finding friends and staying in touch with them has been very important for me. Especially those that don't fall into the codependent habits I've always been susceptible to. I've learned what healthier boundaries look like just by having friends that naturally have them in place and being open to why they have them in place.
Therapy is also a huge one. I've learned that I need to prioritize my own health and happiness above others. Something I would always neglect until I was past burnt out and in the more serious side of despair.
And finally, learning to stop comparing myself to how I want to be. Learning to be happy with where I am right now on my journey vs why I'm not where I want to be.
It's a long difficult journey, and I had to do each bit in steps. I'm still not where I'd like to be (but not upset with myself for not being there yet 😉) and have learned that everything in life is a journey or transition. Have to embrace it a day at a time the best you can and don't beat yourself up for having bad days/weeks/months/years
Good luck ❤️
Ah, those are good tips, thank you!
I've been learning the "not shaving causes dysphoria" lesson the hard way. Sometimes it feels like self-care to relax when I don't have to be in public and I can avoid looking in the mirror, etc. - but inevitably I do see a mirror and not shaving even the small amount of hair left makes me dysphoric in ways I don't even fully understand or immediately recognize.
In the past I have had a hard time motivating self-care, it's like I need to work on the meta-level issues to get to the point where I can more easily motivate taking the actions you list here.
Thank you again for the response! ❤️