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Honestly, just get out of .Ml and let it fade the way hexbear has
Hexbear hasn't really faded, their trans megathread hits 2-3k comments regularly, so it is very relevant to trans affairs on lemmy. They have an extremely active trans community and are very supportive of them, going so far as defederating from problematic instances that have a lot of people that harass trans people on them.
Its a more strict community that doesn't fuck with the wider fediverse on purpose, they care about their queer users. And 66% of hexbear is queer, by the way, and about half are trans.
Wasn't there a whole drama with hexbear, like tankies brigading and such? Or am I mixing this all up with some other instance?
If you mean trans people telling transphobes and racists to fuck off, I mean yeah they did that a lot
That's awesome, but wasnt there a whole debacle with lots of instances defederating from hexbear? If it was so, I never heard it was a trans positiv community (I hope I'm wrong). I always heard beehaw was the trans 💖. Please enlighten me!
I will say, I have had a .ml account because I like to engage with the broader lemmy even if it is often very transphobic. Hexbear has the best trans environment from what I've seen, I think it's worth emulating. The red scare fearmongering was a bit over the top from the other lemmies, people responding to your posts from instances you're federated with is not brigading
I missed most of it myself, but I remember reading about it when it happened. World made a statement about it back then. https://lemmy.world/post/2498330
Preemptively defederated as a "last resort", lmao
Thanks! I knew there was something rotten in that instance. Wanting to dismantle the west, indeed, a very pro LGBT stance they have. Good luck being LGBT in one of the fine dictatorships like Russia (where trans is seen as a mental disease, probably the most lenient of those dictatorships, in Iran it's a death sentence).
Yeah I'll keep myself at beehaw and leave hexbear to the pro dictator fachos.
Lol yeah the west is so pro LGBT. Just ignore the hundreds of proposed anti-trans bills in the USA, or the mass incarceration/prison violence towards trans people, or the widespread medical gatekeeping, or the fact that being LGBT (especially T) makes you way more likely to be homeless, or how even the supposedly left Labour Party has taken a huge rightward swing under Queer Harmer. If you actually think there’s any hope of freedom for LGBT people in the western world you are a fucking idiot. Go read a book and you might yet be able to pull the worms out of your brain. Rainbow Solidarity in Defense of Cuba by Leslie Feinberg is a great one if you want to see what a country actually trying to improve the lives of LGBT people looks like.
Ooh an anti trans bill vs death sentenc. What is worst??! Are you deluded or paid off to tell all this bs lol.
You're all hate too, stay at hexbeer please.
not paid, just an american trans woman who’s tired of suffering in this piece of shit country, and sick to death of chauvinistic pigs like you.
no. i’ll say whatever i want to scum bags like you. deal with it.
The nerve to be coming in here and telling trans people they aren't who they fucking are.
yeah yeah yeah just plug your ears and close your eyes. erase my identity because i don’t conform to your narrow minded worldview. i’ll give you one thing, you’re damn right i’m hateful. i’ve spent my whole life in the west and hated every miserable minute of it. keep defending my oppressors all you like though, i’m sure the colonial murder machine will pay you back graciously one day
Until extremely recently that was also the case in the states, as in, before informed consent became a thing I couldn't get HRT without a doctors note saying I'm mentally ill and fuckable enough, and even then it was sterilization first and having to pay out of pocket for tons of shit.
Also Iran post islamic revolution was one of the few places you can get a binary transition- it's still pretty fucked up, but not a death sentence by any measure.
I wish that Russia was less shitty about being trans so I could visit family more safely, it's not been made better by having my identity turned into a cultural wedge issue.
Yeah but today I'm staying in Europe, and would prefer USA over Russia or Iran.
Shame about Iran, it was so west before the take over.
I think you misunderstood me, after the islamic revolution they allowed for binary transitions. edit: citation
I'm sure that you would, I'm just letting you know as a trans person that the US has been pretty shit for quite some time unless you have money. Even in blue states employment discrimination is rampant and I literally know people being forced to move to less-safe states because they can't afford to live in blue states.
Seeing that in my everyday life while the US poses as some sort of monolithic protector of LGBT rights is just insulting.
Yeah because Russia and Iran are so cozy for LGBT people.
Travel the world, it's eye opening.
I have heard similar. Also hexbear is based on lemmy but not a part of the same fediverse, you might not be able to visit much else from it.
I have no clue about their stance on lgbt+ though, to what i understood the main moral conflict seems to be wether or not you support russian/chinese state-socialism and left-authoritarianism. Allegedly theirs also censorship of criticism.
lmao
Fading away is when they're still the big lemmy boogyman and are one of the most active instances
It is not them who should fade away
It is ye
Yer ilk has single-handedly redditized the spirit of true Lemmy, you {redacted}, may you burn in hell!
I wouldn't call hexbear faded in the slightest. You may have them hidden/blocked/whatever to that effect
Hexbear, Lemmygrad, and Lemmy.Ml have about as many MAU between the three of them as lemm.ee does on its own. Lemmy.world is about five times lemm.ee.
MAUs is a decent measure, but last I know (admittedly old data) Hexbear had quite the outsized post/comment rate for their users compared to other instances. I don't know if the higher MAU count on the other instances counterbalance that at this point, but I think that's at least worth something in determining the size of their presence on the fediverse
Yeah the data is interesting. Each individual in hexbear posts a lot more than your standard user, but they almost exclusively post to hexbear. Other instances bleed more into the broader fediverse and interact with each other more frequently.