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[–] xmunk@sh.itjust.works 131 points 3 months ago

This is no fucking surprise - sexuality is a spectrum and it's rare to be at a full extreme of one of those. I'm glad this new generation will be less ashamed of themselves though!

[–] thebestaquaman@lemmy.world 55 points 3 months ago (3 children)

I'm straight, 100%. I know because I've been very close to trying, and figured out I was too straight to go through with it. If you had asked me when I was 18-24, I would probably not be so sure. Being "bicurious" around that age seems to be quite common, but is probably (my speculation) not closely linked to the proportion of people who are actually not straight.

[–] protist@mander.xyz 52 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Well I was bicurious around that age and am now bisexual, so my anecdote nullifies yours

[–] escapedgoat@lemmy.world 79 points 3 months ago (3 children)

Well I'll bring the average to 66% but I'm not going to say which direction to mess up the math.

[–] zigmus64@lemmy.world 65 points 3 months ago

Your affinity for chaos betrays your bisexuality…

[–] TheHotze@lemmy.world 8 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Just to further confuse the math, I was 100% sure I was straight at that age, but turns out I am aroace.

[–] Linnce@lemmy.world 5 points 3 months ago

I thought I was ace at that age but it turns out it was just birth control messing with hormones. I'm sure I'm straight now.

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[–] WamGams@lemmy.ca 31 points 3 months ago (2 children)

Somebody who is sexually attracted to the same sex but doesn't to through with it is not 100% straight.

It's at least 15% gay.

[–] paultimate14@lemmy.world 12 points 3 months ago

In the last balance patch they buffed it to 18%

[–] andallthat@lemmy.world 9 points 3 months ago (1 children)

in the light of new hard evidence (very hard!) I have to update my priors to 23% gay

[–] cheese_greater@lemmy.world 9 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago)

hard evidence

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[–] Wahots@pawb.social 6 points 3 months ago

I had something similar and was mildly crestfallen when it turned out that dating a dude feels extremely similar to dating women. I thought it would be like... orange-flavored? Or at least spicier? Religions hyped it up for so long, I thought there'd be some sort of difference. Kinda just feels like dating a best friend, regardless of gender. :)

I still find women attractive, but I'll be damned if this relationship with my bf isn't the best one I've ever had.

[–] HelixDab2@lemm.ee 39 points 3 months ago (3 children)

I mean, yes...? That's the way sexuality works. Very few people are completely straight or completely gay. A fantastic example is prison; you put a bunch of guys in prison, and most of them are going to be having sex with other men, at least sometimes. It's not that they're not straight in any normal sense, but that the overall sex drive is strong enough to overcome gender preferences.

It's just not a big deal. Let people be people, as long as everyone involved is consenting, and they aren't causing direct, immediate harm to other people.

[–] todd_bonzalez@lemm.ee 26 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Kinda wild to bring up the sexual repression that we punish our prisoners with, that contributes to the negative outcomes of our "correctional" system, and conclude that it's "not a big deal".

I know what you're trying to say, but this is the worst example I can imagine.

[–] HelixDab2@lemm.ee 12 points 3 months ago

Would you prefer I used the British Navy in the tall ships era as an example instead?

Same principle: when you have a bunch of people together with no access to their preferred gender, they're going to tend to have sex with their non-preferred gender.

[–] chuckleslord@lemmy.world 7 points 3 months ago (1 children)

The big deal is that kids are comfortable saying as such. Heteronormativity is still very much the norm

[–] chonglibloodsport@lemmy.world 4 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Heteronormativity is still very much the norm

Maybe for 30+. It absolutely is not the norm for younger generations. Heck, at that age no one wants to be normal in any case: it’s seen as boring and potentially problematic. All this is to say that I think a lot more people say they are sexually fluid than are actively seeking non-hetero relationships.

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[–] finley@lemm.ee 35 points 3 months ago
[–] RememberTheApollo_@lemmy.world 20 points 3 months ago

I wonder what the survey questions were like? I mean, it's completely reasonable to find someone of the same sex attractive... There's a pic of Pierce Brosnan floating around the fediverse right now and that man is dapper AF. Doesn't mean I want to have his babies but he's sure as hell attractive. So if someone put a question on a survey that asked if you can find someone of the same sex attractive, would that qualify as "not fully straight"? Even if you have zero interest outside of that admiration of someone's physical appearance? I'd assume it would be impossible to be "fully straight" for most anyone if that were the criteria...

[–] some_guy@lemmy.sdf.org 11 points 3 months ago

This is somehow evidence that society is falling apart. /s

[–] molten@lemmy.world 9 points 3 months ago (1 children)
[–] toastus@feddit.org 14 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Water is what makes other stuff wet.

[–] molten@lemmy.world 13 points 3 months ago (1 children)
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[–] sudneo@lemm.ee 6 points 3 months ago (1 children)

That's interesting! I am curious to know what the scale was (what does it mean being fully straight?), if someone find the report and shares the link, that would be great. I looked for it but I could only find summaries.

Was this information collected also in previous surveys? Is there a trend we can observe?

[–] Kerred@lemmy.world 9 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) (1 children)

Survey done by Durex. Durex was also that news site "ally of the year". Interesting. Usually whenever I think of polls I feel like people who aren't directly interested in the topic don't take the poll.

Like if you said there was a polls about video games, I might take it. But a poll about guns id probably pass on.

But I welcome a more open culture, so would be neat if true.

[–] sudneo@lemm.ee 3 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Yeah but I could only find past issues of the Global Sex Survey. I am specifically interested in the scale used for questions (and their results).

Maybe it will take some time for the report to be published though

[–] chaogomu@lemmy.world 3 points 3 months ago (2 children)

The scale is likely the Kinsey scale. A 0-6 scale of sexuality. Zero is completely straight and six is completely gay.

Most people find themselves somewhere in the middle, even if they don't admit it.

I'm somewhere in the range of 1--1.5

I'm firmly attracted to the opposite gender, but might make an exception if the person had a personality that was super compatible with my own. But it's not something I'm going to seek out.

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