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I mean, you're basically describing the point of intersectional activism.

It's harder to throw a parade?

Bisexual with an autoimmune disorder here.

I think the simplest explanation is that LGBT acceptance doesn’t cost anyone anything - in fact it’s the opposite as they no longer have to expend energy on hatred and exclusion. Nothing had to be built or spent to give equal rights to a marginalised group, just a signature on some paper. No government funds needed to be allocated to rolling out this change.

It’s much easier to stop doing something current than to start doing something new. Disability/chronic illness accommodations are extremely varied, costly, take time and money to implement, which creates a natural barrier. From an individual perspective, it costs time and energy to help support someone with a disability or chronic condition. It costs no time or energy to agree that everyone should be treated equitably.

IIRC, the LGBTQ rights gains of the 2010s were accompanied by the message that it’s not a choice.

Too many people still believe that health and ability are markers of virtue. These people believe that a sick or disabled person must be undersleeping, forgetting their vitamins, being lazy, skipping church, eating junk food, or even thinking negative thoughts. It’s a big lie people tell themselves to feel safe. “I do everything right, so nothing bad can happen to me.”

It won’t get any better until everyone realizes that it can happen to anyone.

No chronic illnesses and not LGBTQ here, so please correct me if I get anything wrong.

The reason many LGBTQ issues sees widespread support now wasn’t because governments and companies decided it was ok, it was because of decades of small battles and struggles that really accelerated into widespread acceptance throughout the 10’s, and to which we are already seeing a backlash in terms of the attacks on trans rights (just to note that acceptance is far from complete or just a constant journey in one direction).

Companies adopted pride not because they are allies but because it became more profitable to be pro-LGBTQ than against. Govs don’t work off profitability exactly, but public opinion shifted so far that Obama went from tepidly approving of civil unions to basically every mainstream democrat being pro-LGBTQ now. Even many Republican senators signed on to the Respect for Marriage Act in 2022.

I don’t have a lot of answers for why that doesn’t exist for people with chronic issues / disabilities yet. I’m sure there are many people working to advocate to make it so and I think we all have a responsibility to encourage accessibility as a right. I don’t think anyone saw the acceleration of pro-LGBTQ popular acceptance that was the 10’s coming, and I don’t think you can attribute it to one particular cause. The tough and unsatisfying answer is “it’s complicated,” but I hope that the example of LGBTQ progress can be a source of solidarity and support for advocating for accessibility.

Pride makes money. Companies make money off pride merch and it costs them $0 to be inclusive of LGBT+ people.

But god forbid they do anything beneficial if it doesn't make them money or gasp cost money. That's why they actively find new ways to discriminate against disabled people without it being too obvious so they can skirt the law. Plenty of disabled people can do just as good or better at a job than an able bodied person with accommodations, but you're immediately a threat to a company if you request those accommodations. And then of course, just like anti union propaganda, the general public gets told that disabled people are greedy moochers that need to fuck off out of society.

I worked for a company that is vehemently anti WFH. They had everyone working remotely for all of COVID no problem. But now if a disabled person requests WFH as an accommodation they are told it is "not reasonable" and it is denied. It's very easy to get away with discrimination against disabled people because a lot of us are just trying to get through the day. Sitting in a court room to fight a company that will extend the lawsuit as long as possible sounds like my own personal nightmare. Hell, speaking of court even FUCKING JURY DUTY won't accommodate a lot of disabled people. That's literally the government and they don't give a fuck. I speak from experience.

Like most things, the answer is money. They want able bodied workers they can make money off the back of for the minimum amount possible.

Sorry this turned into a rant lmao

People don't take pride in those things like they do being gay, bi or trans.

Fellow cripple, chronic pain sufferer who struggles to function in society. It sucks. We get no help. Everybody around us gets help but us

Corpos can’t monetize it as easily as they can with lgbqt

Well, I don’t really feel like sharing that I have bouts of nearly debilitating psoriatic arthritis at 33. It’s not something I wanna take pride in. Can’t even get into a rheumatologist for another year.

I will add another thing. Many disabled people aren't working force Because they can't/there's no acoomodation, etc What this means is that they don't generate money And corporations/capitalism don't care for people who are a burden

A few difficult reasons.

1. People with chronic illnesses frequently don't have the energy to make noise and bring attention to their cause.
2. People with significant disability usually aren't hiding in the halls of power, blending in. It's significantly easier to hide a non-straight sexuality for long enough that you can be the decision maker who makes reform happen.
3. Disability is so varied, one person with one disability can't know what it is like to have a different one. This stymies cross-disability advocacy. This gets even harder for family of people with disabilities, who only conceptually maybe understand their loved one's conditions, let alone other people's
4. Accessibility accommodations can be complex and can be expensive, LGBT+ inclusion is extremely easy and low effort by comparison.
5. Understanding how disability affects daily life pervasively is harder than understanding "those two people are in love". Most people internally assume everyone else has roughly the same abilities and needs as themselves.
6. People with congenital conditions are frequently conditioned into not asking for better treatment. They get used to being second class citizens because it's all they've ever known.
7. "Coming out" with a disability casts doubt on your ability to "perform" in the workplace. It's very risky, the stigma of disability is huge and impacts how people evaluate you
8. Most people with disabilities don't consider themselves disabled. For example, glasses are one of the world's most common disability aids, but you'll never hear them referred to as such; and rarely will their users consider their poor eyesight a disability. Mobility disabilities are often written off as "I'm just getting old" or "I'm just a little unfit lately" or "it's just an old injury playing up" instead of "I have a medical condition which limits my daily life".

There's more, I'm sure I'm forgetting a bunch.

Edited to add a huge one:

1. People who are born with disability or who acquire them at a young age are frequently unable to access the type of formal education that allows them to become professionals. This makes it even harder for them to be visible in workplaces, because they're considered "unskilled". It also means you won't see people with disabilities regularly in offices. Out of sight, out of mind for everyone else.

And another:

1. Money is medical privilege, and the people with the most money make the types of decisions that affect larger quantities of people. For people with disabilities who are born to wealth or who are able to acquire it, their medical conditions can be better treated, managed and therefore hidden. This can result in those people and the people who surround them to not feel like the illness is "a big deal" and hence it's not a priority issue. It's when people with significant money are negatively affected that you begin to hear about the barriers people with no money experience all day long.

A lot of the points here are valid but I personally think it's partly because disabled people aren't "pretty". There's a narrow band of what's sort of socially accepted as a disability and if you're not in that band you're kinda screwed. If it's not visible enough you're faking or overexaggerating or a hypochondriac. If it's too visible it's gross and annoying and 'why are you even out if you need everyone to cater to you?'. And when it comes to issues and accepting them, I feel like most people mainly care about the "normal" people who just happen to be apart of that group. Your Ellen DeGenereses and captain Holts and whatnot. Think about it - whenever you usually see disabilities in media, it's usually the same set of easily identifiable ones and a lot of the time the character in question has something that negates it in a way and if it is something more nonstandard, it seems like it's the butt of the joke a lot of the time. And that doesn't really work for disabilities because of how varied they are and how they often need conflicting things. You can't just fight for the nice socially acceptable ones and call it a day.

Same goes for mental illness - it feels like most people are still working from the same set of sterotypes where you're either a deranged maniac or an inaccurate sterotype like a savant with no social skills or maybe a hyper idealised version of said condition. And it's hard to fight for accommodation when people don't even understand what you're fighting for.

LGBT and chronically ill checking in. So, the biggest reason (in the US) is because the chronically ill haven't had their civil rights movement. I think a lot of history books gloss over just how many riots there were pre 2000s to gain basic human rights. Pride parades are not just a big party - they're a commemoration of the stonewall riots. Protests were held annually for years, and cities began sponsoring the marches so they'd become peaceful protests. Now we have parades. It was a constant uphill battle with people fighting against their very existence being illegal. For being jailed, tortured, or murdered for showing their sexuality. For being blamed because someone who's repressed or in the closet considers someone who's out to be "temptation".

LGBT rights are much closer to black and womens rights than they are to chronic illnesses. We don't see people being jailed for needing a wheelchair, or murdered for having an auto immune disease. If you can get a large number of people to riot for the right to work from home, you might get results. Until then we'll have to wait until things change through the legal system.

If it's worth anything, all the visibilization, representation and positive portrayal of disability and chronic illness I've ever seen (and it has steadily grown in the past 10 years in my experience) has come through LGBT+ or LGBT+friendly spaces or hand in hand with them (once again, in my experience). I don't known how mainstream it is though, since my browsing habits are not that mainstream

I've honestly never really heard anyone complaining about it. You need to make a fuss.

I mean people treat chronic pain\illness patients like they did gays in the 70s and 80s, give it some time maybe they'll come around.

Protections and accommodations for those groups are codified into law much more firmly and with longer tenure as a part of decent society.

By contrast, we're unfortunately not far removed from the time when the word "gay", for example, was commonly used as a pejorative for just about everything. LGBTQIA+ people are also very often attacked and killed for their status as such in the modern world.

So that gap in concrete societal norms and established, ubiquitous law are what demand a more active PRIDE movement right now to help people feel seen and spread awareness to counteract hate and ignorance (which hopefully leads to similar enforced protections for these communities).

All are valid though and need more support.

Advocating for glbtq rights does not endanger the main power structure. Advocating for people suffering from chronic illness would require fundamental changes to how healthcare is distributed, and thus directly affect the bottom line of some very powerful interests.

LGBTQ+ issues are kind of a warzone right now, because conservatives see trans rights issues especially as a wedge issue they can use to pull in people who might support gay marriage but still feel confused or grossed out by things like trans women using women's bathrooms.

This conversation eats up a lot of the space that could be used to talk about things that would (should?) actually be less controversial, like accessibility.

Conservatives don't want to talk about it because it would be a straightforward loser for them. Lots of progressives don't have time to talk about it because they're circling the wagons to fight for trans people having the right to... (checks notes) exist.

This isn't to say disability issues aren't as important. The point of intersectional activism is for many disparate groups to fight together against the kinds of people who want to separate them. A rising tide that helps everyone.

It sucks because it's slow and painful and people get increasingly tribal when they feel under threat.