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My fiance says he's never heard of this and I can't tell you I know where it came from but I take my shoes off and carry them or leave them outside the boundary when I know I'm waking over dead people! We're supposed to respect dead people and you respect people by taking off your shoes when you enter their home! You should take your shoes off when walking where dead people live(are)???

Am I just insane???

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[โ€“] dan1101@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago

I've never heard of this either, just that it's best try not walking on the graves in general. Shoes are fine though, you're outside.

[โ€“] Spzi@lemmy.click 1 points 1 year ago

What if some of those dead people find it disrespectful if you walk around without shoes?

Personally I don't think dead people do or feel anything, but it's the feelings of living relatives which you might hurt with inappropriate behaviour. If you observe what others do or check the cemetary rules, that should give you a good idea what's okay and what not.

Since there is no way to ask what dead people actually need or want (and wether that question even makes sense), there is no objective way to know the answer. Different people will have different beliefs. One way to be respectful with each other in that situation is to not assume the moral high ground. Maybe it is okay if you take off your shoes and others don't?