My parents suck. If you have to put up with their shit you're definitely a loser.
this post was submitted on 15 Feb 2024
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It can be a bad thing for your parents if you are not contributing in any way. Humiliation doesn't always help in promoting self-improvement but it is a social tool that establish social expectations. Producing value is expected in most societies. What changes is what value ought to be defined.
Why is being economically disenfranchised corrolated to not producing value? I could understand an inverse corrolation however.
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I never understood this. If rent wasn't so stupid high I would've had my own place long ago.
I would have but I got caught up in the great recession before I could leave.
then when I finally got enough money to consider looking for a place, I received a very serious medical condition that wiped out finances and seriously affected my working ability. this condition also makes it almost necessary for someone to be around. so unless I hit the powerball or megamillions I'm going to be in my parents house for a while.
Purely for dumb reasons. If you don't need to escape from them and it makes financial sense go for it and ignore anyone who judges you for it... they're assholes.
Because the people who write American media are the same people with investments in real estate.
Back when I was a kid in the early 2000s we still had the mentality that it was easy to get a good job and buy a house and love by yourself. So when a young adult didn't, the stigma was that they were too lazy to get a great job handed to them.
Since at least the 2008 recession that really hasn't been the case, but the culture hasn't caught up, or was slower to catch up.
and love by yourself
I know that's a typo, but making it easier to bring home hookups was, like, 80% of the reason for me.
Now that a) it's impossible to afford rent and it's becoming more common and b) we're transitioning from Boomers (who tended to have a more antagonistic and condescending relationship with their children) to Gen X being the "older generation", I suspect that perception is in the process of changing now-a-days.
But previous generations were expected to nag the shit out of their kids to get a job and/or spouse and a house so the parents could do cruises full time in their retirement or some such. So to a large extent, it was societal pressure and people got the idea that living with your parents was "pathetic" *from their parents.
in the US, we value independence - and living with your parents after you're 18 is the polar opposite, or so society would lead you to believe.
Because the people at the top who greenlight everything are rich and think anyone that would live with their family past the age of 18 is a lazy shit stain. That's the answer. It doesn't matter if it doesn't make a shred of sense, it's just the truth.
In 10 years, that will be the norm.
Disregarding different societal norms, I find it interesting that some people don't have the intrinsic need to gtfo to a more personal space, be it either nice or shitty parents.
It's a disgrace - but only because the system is so messed up. I'm old enough to own my own house but my kids probably never will unless they live with me well into their 30s and save like crazy. My generation and those before me have screwed up the housing market.
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Love my family, would hate living with them - just because we are very different people.
Fully agree with you there. I can never fully relax around family and it'd probably be a nightmare living with them.
Must be an american skill issue