ADHD

The real issue with Adult ADHD is you are expected to manage it yourself... Gee thanks why not make my life as hard as possible...

But that said, I would say the baseline for support is a Psychiatrist or PMHNP-BC - Psychiatric Nurse Practitioner. Getting the correct medication and combination of treatment is critical to stabilizing so you can take advantage of other resources.

I strongly suggest at minimum a medication to treat the ADHD and probably an anti depressant (if directed) as depression is a very common comorbidity.

Once you have a stable level of medical support the next step is the mental support. For that I strongly suggest a cognitive behavioural therapy provider. The reason being building stable behaviours is key to reducing the impact of some of the issues that come with ADHD.

After that I got nothing, because I have personally not made it past this point, and have actually back slid some due to life. I am transitioning to a new Therapist so fingers crossed I can start to recover some.

Here: https://github.com/XargsUK/awesome-adhd

My personal choices are...

• Russell Barkley, phD
• Dr. Tracey Marks
• How to ADHD
• ADHD ReWired
• ADHD Experts

And you asked for sources, but these tools are great...

Apps

MyTherapy Pill Reminder: Notifications are annoying enough for me to take my pills.

Alarm Clock for Heavy Sleepers: I am not a heavy sleeper. I use it as my default alarm because it is highly customizable and it lets me snooze whatever time I need to snooze from a list of options I decide. Also, you can have alarms with different behaviors.

Bitwarden Password Manager: It's impossible to remember all your passwords nowadays...

Everyday objects

Clever Fox Pocket Weekly Planner: Before, I had reminders and to-dos everywhere (phone notes, post-its, to-do app, alarms...). Now I only use this notebook. Everything is here, from "do laundry" to "Friend's birthday". It's been very helpful.

Fidget cube from Antsy Labs: It's the original one! It's nice.

Loop Experience Plus Earplugs: Expensive, but effective and comfortable.

This, and a minimalist lifestyle are helping me. I share it, just in case.

⚠️ By the way, learning about ADHD is chaotic because people have different takes on it. There's the "I am a researcher, an expert, and all my years of study have let me to conclude that ADHD is not what the DSM tells us but something different, similar but different" (e.g. professor Russel Barkley). There's the "ADHD is what the DSM says because that's the experts' consensus. If we discover something new via sufficient evidence, it will appear in future editions of the DSM. Of course there are other things to say about the disorder, but they are too new and need more research" (e.g. Dr. Tracey Marks). And then there's the "ADHD is not even a disorder, it is just a brain that's different from the average brain. ADHD is therefore not understood by psychiatrists but by people who live with it, and we say that it resembles the description from the psychiatrists but it has additional traits" (e.g. the neurodiversity movement).

Sorry for the long answer! I hope it helps.

Oh, no, it's definitely not a thing you age out of!

I've found the ADHD rewired podcast is a pretty good podcast. The hose (whose name I forget) has ADHD himself and often has tips for adults with ADHD. Anytime I listen I think I smile and don't feel so alone.

I was also a part of a group called CHADD some time ago (Children & Adults with ADHD). You might be able to look for a chapter in your area. I also came across a remote (non-CHADD) ADHD support group on meetup...that might be a good place to look for a group.

Other than pysch/ pnp like suggested have you thought about a therapist that specializes in adhd? I hear (still struggling to find one myself) that those who specialize in it can help a lot. Maybe see if there is an adult ADHD support group in your area?