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calling out this inequality will 100% get any man labeled as an incel. We’re expected to either deal with it or be alone forever.
There is a reason you keep hearing this phrase, this entire line of thinking is incely as heck. Having standards is not an incel trait, but being angry at women and thinking you are "forever alone" because of those standards sure as heck is! You are making a giant stra-woman just so you can be angry at it. People can have whatever standards they like and their "hypocrisy" is not your concern, but being upset at those standards is just wishing women would settle for less.
For example, women living with parents while expecting men to have their own place, women who are obese but are only interested in fit men, working part time while expecting a man who has a career, refusing to drive and expecting men to chauffeur them around, expecting men to have a variety of friends and interests while doing nothing but watching TV all day, etc.
Acknowledging the right to bodily autonomy doesn't automatically make you a feminist. Thinking women want to be chauffeured around, waited on, contribute nothing and be obese is boiler plate misogyny. This post sounds like it was wrote in the 50's, back in the good 'ole days before women wanted too much!