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Feeling confident without makeup.
Realizing that the pillars of success written by governments or institutions is bullshit and caring more about good people.
Feeling comfortable with a small social bubble. Quality over quantity.
Valuing naps over parties. π΄
When i was young i could sleep on a staircase and walk off next day as if nothing happened.
But now i sleep on pillow with slight angle and the next day is hell with neck and mid back pain.
Also alcohol tolerance reduced
I feel both of these. I'm 40 and yeah, sleeping slightly weirdly I get shoulder pain the next day. Working out regularly has definitely helped things. Also for alcohol, I have to be careful to also include non-alcoholic drinks in an evening, say a non-alcoholic beer or something before the real thing.
I have to keep scrolling further and further back every year on age verification for websites.
If the website only uses two digit years, eventually you'll hit a time where you don't need to scroll at all.
The realization that I may never live to see capitalism collapse
These are all cute, but when you start to lose your balance just turning your head or with basic movements, you really start to feel old.
It's only a matter of time before you start falling.
Once you start falling, you start dying slowly
Losing the people you love in very different ways.
Every fart is a gamble
The rage inside has only ever increased. The older I get the more militant I get. By the time I'm 40 I'll be living in the forest defending my country from fascists with a bow and arrow.
Gray pube.
Whatever im doing i gotta be careful or ill fuck my back up
Sounds strange but I feel like, they listen to me more at work. There is more respect to the things I say.
I've also found that I'm more outspoken when I see mistakes happening or calling out when people are being foolish.
I was in a mosh pit for the first time in 7 years last year. I got fucking destroyed and was sore for about 2 weeks. I also slipped walking my dog during a big snow we had a few weeks ago and took me a little bit longer to get up than I used too. I am not old by any means and working on getting back in shape, but its starting :(
Not me, but my dad and his gf were at a headshop to get a new bowl/slide for their bong. They texted me and my wife to see "what the kids were calling them now a days" after a guess or two I said slide. They then went on a tangent how the people had no idea what they meant and kept trying to sell them a downstem lol. A few younger guys at my last job gave me shit for calling a banger a nail. Weed lingo sucks lol
That the experience the issues old people told you about. My lumbar is always achy
I notice the 55 and older menu. Save some money!
I don't get it, the year on the calendar keeps getting bigger, and I can't figure out why.
Injuring myself in my sleep
Holidays are a blur. I don't remember individual years anymore, and every year I'm started at how quickly it became Christmas already.
Ffs we're halfway through February already. I was just putting up the tree like 3 days ago.
A girl that stopped me on the street to ask directions concluded the exchange with βThank you sir.β
Also, the waiters now automatically bring the bill to me when I have lunch with coworkers.
Time feels way faster as you get older.
It's also pretty grim that the people you know are either dying, dead, or have a life altering illness that comes out of nowhere. I feel like there's a funeral in my family once a month, rather than once every decade.
all my friends are either dead or my enemies
I don't distrohop or tinker with my Linux install anymore. I just install Linux Mint XFCE edition and don't even bother changing the background.
Male pattern baldness sucks, esp as a trans girl
Injuries take longer to heal and recovery from the gym is slower
Hangovers now take two days
Skin dries out much faster (though this might be due to E)
Lots of things like grey hair, moving more slowly, injuries that I would have bounced away from before instead hurting for weeks or months.
But the one that hit hardest was a breakup I had a little while back. She was the love of my life and I fully intended to marry her, and when she ended it out of nowhere I was sad, but fine. She dumped me, and it sucked, but I also needed to finish a staff report for a Planning and Zoning Commission meeting that night. So I moved on.
The thing that upset me most was that I wasn't that upset. There was a time in my life when I would have been a mess. But as I've aged, my emotions have become more regulated.
I miss being capable of that level of joy and pain.