What emotions are we talking about?
this post was submitted on 23 Sep 2023
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Grown ups try to control who they reveal particular emotions to.
Generally, individuals of any gender would only reveal their sensitive side to very very close friends.
If someone doesn't respond well to your display of emotion, you may have misread your relationship with them.
Hit me up, if you need a male friend! Always down for a "pen" pal
You have stupid friends?
I only want to deal with some of men's emotions. Sometimes I wanna hang out people for fun and not as their therapist. I find women a lot more gentle to receive that stuff too. There's a lot of psychology involved.
Men will see a potential in gaining something by being adversaries. Even if it's a worse outcome by any stretch of the imagination they mightn't be able to overcome evolved and taught practices of harm.
Many men have to be disarmed before they can get out of predator mode. And high functioning narcissists, psychopaths, ... - dark triad types will only pretend to come out.
It's the difference between your average agreeable person and a highly driven academic. You're probably going to notice shades of ego with the university educated person. The higher the school status the more likely pretensiousness comes into play during interactions. Everything starts to toxify into a contest of intellect and qualifications.
Men have similar prevailing toxicity. So, creating a road block over excessive emotional output is an attempt at a 'gotcha'. They're attempting to demarcate/mark their territory at the expense of the emotional person.
Men can't feel. We aren't allowed to have emotions unless those emotions are sports, trucks or steak. If we're not on that grind set, making money while we sleep then our dreams of owning sports car will never come true. Without sports car how can we get a trad-wife to give birth to our next men?
Apparently I should add /s...
I once heard a guy say "Men have two emotions: hunger and anger."
Damn that's good. And sad.
Men don't talk face to face; they talk shoulder to shoulder. Not sure why you expect everyone else to "confront their feelings" with you.
I'm honest, I don't understand that analogy.