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On the other hand, the act of sharing this response without also sharing a method of resolution and/or a framing or context that makes it a passing feeling and not a "harsh reality about current society" or whatever your brain will try to attach to, just provides miserable people yet another rumination topic to get lost down.

For healthy adults, you learn how to manage or avoid rumination. For people without social experience, without a healthy level of emotional intelligence, and especially without good, involved parenting, a young mind can take a post like this and just get absolutely lost down the rabbit-hole of negative validation. Seeing someone in the community you connect with sharing a feeling that your already depressed brain can latch onto is a recipe for depressive contagions.

Get your teenagers off the internet people.

I suspect people are just good at identifying incels

I think it sets up the scene, of her having to look up at his face a little bit

Armchair psychology by your local dipshit:

Depression tends to be irrational, and thus thought processes around it tend to be irrational.

I'll never understand that reaction.

The experience probably felt painful (literally) for Anon so his lizard brain immediately wanted to strike back at what's causing the pain. Doesn't make much sense of course so he didn't actually do it, probably felt bad about it too.

It probably depends on your personality, mainly agreeableness.

Agreeable people direct their anger and frustration at themselves, while those who are disagreeable direct it at others.

Now imagine you had more than a good shot, and you where the one who rejected her. How would you feel, looking back and seeing you where an idiot?

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Anon just needs to find himself someone as miserable as him, problem solved!

My qualm with "working on yourself" advise is that it is too broad and non-specific, which I think makes a person even more confused. There are so many little details that a person may miss in relation to themselves. It requires a lot of introspection. But even then, even if the person does a lot of thinking, the conclusion may be wrong. For example, the guy does work out and believes he will attract girls; but if he doesn't realise he's got bad breath and got turned down for it, it could lead to the wrong conclusion for him that women in general are just mean, or whatever other wrong conclusion that the guy could draw from.

I've seen guys struggle with dating, even good looking ones, but most of the time it is because they struggle to figure out the finer details. However, the problem is that it is hard to broach the topic because it may offend the person. Each individuals are unique and as much as we are all unique in our own good way, it also applies that we are all uniquely flawed. We have to figure out the latter and rectify it without putting ourselves down. But even the process of rectifying one's own self can be challenging, because introspection could lead to unhealthy conclusions and behaviours if not done in healthy manner.

I don't know if it makes sense, but that's just my two cents based from my personal experience and what I observed about others. I think many men are struggling because they don't get specific enough advise. There is no "one size fits all" advise for men in dating and relationships (if there is, unfortunately the broad "one size fits all advise" are easily used for exploitation by those who could influence, as we saw with Andrew Tate and others). But as I mentioned, providing specific advise to individuals is a hard thing to broach.

Disclaimer: I was never an Incel. I held no ill will against women, I always had many female friends. I'm politically active and call myself a feminist. Still, I didn't ever have a romantic partnership and I suffered from it.

I am 29 years old. This year I started treating my chronic depression I never admitted I had and oh wonder I found a wonderful partner in a matter of months. Incel ideology is so fucked up. These guys seriously need help and support structures but they reject all that and hate half of humanity instead.

Exactly. It's funny how weird and distanced from reality the posts on 4chan are. As if 6 inches of height would make or break a relationship. My gf is ~5 inch taller than me and lifts more and guess what? She's still devoted to me.

Not likely I'd meet a 6'10" woman.

I've also dated women taller than me and had no issue, my issue is simply that I find it funny how bodyshaming is only ok when you do it to men (no hair, fat gut, small peepee, short, etc) but any other time it's bad and you should feel bad. How come "manlet" still gets a pass but we've deprecated "whale?"

Frankly I bet no shortage of those incels are fat or short guys with small weewees and bad hair and that the bodyshaming helps cement them in their misanthropic position, "why even try, I can't grow taller or afford hair/dick surgery, yadda yadda.." Sure the fat can be worked on, but do we tell fat women that are lonely to slim down? Not anymore, that used to be true but now it's bodyshaming and you're the asshole for doing it, so why shouldn't fat men love their bodies too? Body positivity isn't only for women.

I guess what I'm trying to say is "Yeah, do not thou be afraid, but some of this shit needs to be talked about because it seems incongruous with reason, and honestly it may contribute to the problem."