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Years ago I read a reddit thread saying you shouldn't pursue friendships or relationships at your workplace. Then I again see all over the places over the internet that friendships don't happen a lot after you become working adult and that they're struggling make new friends. My question is If you don't purse friendships, how would those happen?

Want to know about the thoughts of people over here.

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[–] GreenKnight23@lemmy.world 3 points 3 weeks ago

I have work colleagues. people I commiserate with on interoffice politics and the like.

I don't have friends.

I'm too old for other peoples bullshit and refuse to change my QoL because "Jerry" decided we're going on a weekend adventure to methtown USA.

between work, home, and hobbies I've got barely enough time to sleep.

[–] akkajdh999@programming.dev 2 points 3 weeks ago

It's wise to make "friends"

[–] ____@infosec.pub 2 points 3 weeks ago

I’ve been remote since 2014. Plenty of friends made. Wouldn’t date at work as a general rule, it creates unnecessary risk IMO.

Certainly wouldn’t eg move in with someone I worked with, etc.

Then again, being poly and happily married, risk calculus is part of my mental process before attempting to date a particular person. If it goes south, will they show up naked and screaming on my front lawn in the middle of the night?

Since an angry ex doesn’t have the option of along me look bad to my wife (who also dates), any serious crazy could escalate quickly and creatively. I want nothing to do with that.

[–] gnomesaiyan@lemmy.world 1 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

The phrase I run with: don't shit in your own backyard.

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