*their
"there friends" would be like... friends that are somewhere else. As opposed to "here friends", I guess
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There are no universal truths about the behavior of "men" and "women" (nor other gender identities)
However, I believe men (at least in the US) are often socialized to more emotionally closed off. Like the only emotion allowed is anger. Other emotions are seen as weak or femme (which are viewed as the same)
I tell my boys I love them. Kisses on the forehead before we part too.
I'm (m) somewhat "intimate" with my friends I'll hug and stuff. But I'll play it off as a joke half the time depending on who. I was fortunate enough to have made really great friends in high-school that I can be more friendly and am secure enough that if anyone said anything it wouldn't phase me
Adding on to this, I'm more secure when we've had more to drink so a "drunken hug" is more acceptable
yes, we're not all incels and taters and fundamentalist wannabe strong men
Some are, I'm not a man but I have male friends and we're very intimate and close, hug and cuddle each other, express our affection and our emotions openly
Ofc I have had the "bro" type of male friends, where it seems they feel like we can't do that kind of stuff even if we do rly care for each other :(
It's much better in queer and queer-friendly spaces ime