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What is the most unhelpful advice you have received? (lemmy.world)

submitted 1 year ago by axolittl@lemmy.world to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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I'll go first: "You have to have children when you're young," told to me when I was in my late 20s, with no desire to ever have kids, and no means to support them, by someone divorced multiple times with at least one adult child who does not speak to them.

Also: Responding to "How do I deal with this problem?" questions with "Oh, don't worry about it, it's enough that you're even thinking about it!"

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[–] ablackcatstail@lemmy.goblackcat.com 185 points 1 year ago (9 children)

Get an advanced education, work harder, never be the one to say, "That is not my job" was the worst advice I could ever receive. I got into debt and was abused and exploited by my employers.

[–] axolittl@lemmy.world 82 points 1 year ago (4 children)

Oof. A lot of "helpful advice" about jobs is helpful not for the workers, but for the owning class.

[–] TornadoRex@lemmy.world 64 points 1 year ago (3 children)

The problem is that when the people giving that advice were working, it was great advice. Companies took care of their employees. Tenure mattered. Companies today are mindless corporate blobs that only care about spreadsheet numbers and the next quarter's results.

[–] axolittl@lemmy.world 47 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Maybe in some situations in the past owners were better to their workers, but in many cases there is an unbroken line of exploitation going back in the past. The idea that exploitation is an extremely new phenomenon benefits the owning class by concealing the long and bloody history of proletarian struggles.

[–] xantoxis@lemmy.one 31 points 1 year ago

If your children would just adopt a can-do attitude while they're mining, they'd be getting promotions

[–] TornadoRex@lemmy.world 9 points 1 year ago

Oh absolutely there was exploitation. Especially in certain industries.

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