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Say the wrong thing some time. Folk will set you right. Its a bit rough on the ego but nothing stamps out brain worms quite like a stern rebuke and as soon as you say "oh shit you are right" everything is good.
I'd almost consider it like an online anxiety lol. Mustering up the strength to not revert back to being a lurker after not expressing a thought succinctly and powering through the posting to stamp those worms out.
You know, I gotta say the whole Lemmy vibe has fixed a lot of that issue for me. I had some 500k karma on Reddit from comments, but I deleted all of them within a week of posting because the anxiety got to me. I wanted to be entirely transient there. Part of the conversation, but as soon as the conversation was over, gone.
Lemmy is a smaller more community-feel community in general, and other than a few bad actors, it’s really peaceful here.
I have wild amounts of anxiety about tons of things, and I don’t feel weird participating here (even without deleting all my content regularly!)
Once you get through the “I’m posting to help everyone here” barrier, which that silly message on posts with no comments helps a ton with, it’s such a good space to exist. Even if you don’t agree, if you do so from a place of open communication and accept what others want to share with you, you’ll be totally fine.
Thanks, this gives me a lot more confidence in just going with the flow. Some of the back and forths here have already been pleasant too