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I am against a law allowing LGBTQ couples to adopt children in my country (Poland). I am not in any way against it as a general idea, but Polish society is full of full-on bigots and these kids would be subject to so much bullying, it's really against their best interest.
The argument a lot of people raise "if we start doing it then people will get used to it" doesn't work for me, because why should these children be victims of war that is not even theirs to fight? The whole thing makes me sick.
I've been downvoted for this opinion by both sides on Reddit.
Your intention is good, but that's not the way to fight this problem. Limiting LGBTQs' ability to adopt children so society doesn't pick on them is akin to disallowing knives because people can use them for stabbing purposes: it works, I suppose, but you're removing a lot of benefits. Like cutting an arm when you have a cut, instead of treating the cut.
I'll admit, I don't know what the real solution is, and if it's even possible to have a tolerant society and untraumatized children at the same time, but opposing the law entirely isn't it.
Knives don't have feelings. Would you willingly put your own child through bullying for a better cause but of very little direct benefit to themselves (most likely, theres a chance they'll be LGBTQ too of course)? I wouldn't, I don't think it's worth it to make a child a martyr.
Dude, kids are gonna be bullied literally no matter what. Sometimes for no reason at all! It’s the parents’ job to help the kids deal with it in a healthy way. I don’t see why you’re pretending they would be “martyrs” any more than I was a “martyr” for my right to… have a few more freckles than the other kids.