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what can it mean when a girl (a friend) suddenly acts odd ? (lemmy.blahaj.zone)

submitted 3 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) by galactic@lemmy.blahaj.zone to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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i don’t really need advice yet, it’s just a question. a girl im friends with acts really odd. we are friends, and we used to talk a lot, but then she started getting quieter, making less eye contact.

she also started being tenser/snippy at times.

when she’s not snippy, she’s just very quiet, which is most of the time. sometimes she’ll scoot over next to me but then scoot away, or act like she wants to sit by me but then goes away.

she doesn’t seem to be acting rude at all or mad at me. she will be nice, like smiling and waving and saying “hello”, or energetic when she can respond over text, so i don’t believe i’ve done anything to hurt her, but it’s just been really odd. what, from your experience, make a friend start acting this way? (especially girl because idk about guy friend behaviors)

most of the time, she acts normal, and i appreciate our friendship, and she seems to not hate me or anything like i said

update: i asked bc i was curious abt her behavior as friends, not just wondering if she liked me or anything even if that’s the impression some of y’all get 😭

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[–] Sunsofold@lemmings.world 6 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Stress is the obvious answer. You won't be able to guess what is causing it, so don't start speculating. You can try to impress upon her that you are a safe outlet for that stress if you are able and willing to really be that for her, (Don't just jump at it because you are curious. You might not like what comes from it, and it's worse to pull back after the fact than to not offer at all.) or you can just be a source of stability while she works through it herself. Use your best judgement.

[–] galactic@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 1 day ago

She is doing better 😊