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[–] recklessengagement@lemmy.world 137 points 2 months ago (13 children)

Implying you can control or induce these hyperfixations in a productive way is disingenuous at best, measurably harmful at worst.

If you work in a job that can use use the chaos in a productive way that's great, but I'm willing to bet you still face abnormally high difficulty with general life tasks, and consistently struggle to enforce a work/life balance.

You're not helping people with ADHD by posting this. You're establishing an unattainable standard for people that are already doing everything in their power just to get by.

[–] socsa@piefed.social 46 points 2 months ago (10 children)

It's also pretty cringe "mom says I'm a genius" shit

[–] Maggoty@lemmy.world 26 points 2 months ago (9 children)

Every parent should be gassing their kid up though. Most of our "successful" people are just normal kids that never hit a wall or had help getting around walls. Realistic expectations are what keeps people from jumping jobs for a raise; applying for positions they don't fully qualify for; moving for better job market access; retraining for management roles; and so much more.

Note, I'm not talking about rags to riches, success can be a first generation college graduate getting a professional job; a homeless kid getting a steady job and pulling their family off the streets; a burnt out delivery guy getting a union warehouse job. The point is people with low expectations don't look for new opportunities.

[–] Grail@lemmy.world 6 points 2 months ago (3 children)

It's so weird that we have a culture that treats teaching pride to children as a bad thing.

https://medium.com/@viridiangrail/why-reactionaries-hate-pride-and-narcissists-938d39261f13

[–] Maggoty@lemmy.world 6 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago)

Oh that's just for normal kids. Like half of what a private school does is teach kids to have pride and confidence. The other half is introduce them to a network of wealthy people so they can get a VP job after their dirt easy business degree that also teaches them they're now experts in becoming experts at whatever their team does

Which is why they're so insufferable and why they think they can micromanage someone who's bringing literal decades of experience and learning to a situation.

As to why conservatives go so hard on it? It's their ideology. If they thought the Walmart greeters had any intrinsic worth then they would feel bad about how they treat them. So nobody's special until they've proven themselves and that just happens to coincide with going to private school where they tell the kids they earned their spot because they did an interview and wrote an essay.

[–] tyler@programming.dev 4 points 2 months ago (2 children)

What a weird thing to call pride and narcissism the same. Being prideful is nothing to do with being narcissistic. One is an external thing, the other an internal. The prideful person cares about things other than themselves and shows that. The narcissistic person cares about no one but themselves, and their actions reflect that.

[–] Reverendender@sh.itjust.works 1 points 2 months ago

This comment deserves increased visibility

[–] Grail@lemmy.world 0 points 2 months ago

That's not true at all. I have Narcissistic Personality Disorder, and I care about others very deeply. And My actions reflect that. For example, recently I shut down a cult discord server run by a pedophile who's dating kids from the cult. This is because I think adults dating kids is bad.

[–] Twelve20two@slrpnk.net 4 points 2 months ago (1 children)

I am so fucked up in part because I was taught that pride is the root of all evil and that it's better to be humble.

I struggle to accept compliments, I struggle to not be intensely critical of myself, and I feel like I have very little drive for just about any form of competition.

[–] Reverendender@sh.itjust.works 2 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago)

I felt like you my whole life. All that shame, embarrassment and guilt. I literally assumed it was just because I was in fact a shitty human.

Then I read this: https://www.additudemag.com/rejection-sensitive-dysphoria-and-adhd/amp/

Holy shit. What a revelation. I told my psychiatrist about this and sent him the article. He prescribed Clonidine. Clonidine is amazing! It got rid of all that shame and allowed me to realize that I do not suck, that everyone does not hate me, and that those horrible emotions were basically fictions created by my shitty brain chemistry.

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