There's definitely a part of me that blames myself for this.

At the same time though I feel like Tim and Kat have to share some of the blame.

We were all late teens early 20s at this point. This was not some 6th grade shenanigans. Being told that the two of you look good together and obviously like each other shouldn't be the end of the relationship.

If you don't mind subtitles and you're okay for tucking in for a 40-hour marathon, I can highly recommend the Taiwanese drama series "Nirvana in fire"

It's a beautiful period piece with elaborate sets and wuxia fighting and political intrigue and drama upon drama upon drama as a man who was wronged wreaks his revenge against the royals who wronged him.

It won many awards but because it's in Mandarin it never made it over to the states, it's probably one of the best television shows I have ever seen in my entire life.

Officer, we have had a doozy of a day!

Highly recommend that you go in to watching Tucker and Dale versus evil without looking up any information on the movie. Watching it blind is the best way because the less you know about it the more it will entertain you.

I had two friends, Kat and Tim, who were vibing on each other super hard.

Both of them were afraid to make the first move.

One day I got drunk and I saw them kind of flirting and it got the best of me and I just said hey guys, you two are obviously a great match for each other, why don't y'all go out on a date and see where it goes?

That in itself wasn't that bad but in my mildly drunk stupor I didn't think about the fact that we were all standing in front of all of our friends and they were both shy and because of me saying that they immediately distance themselves from one another and never got together.

If I had kept my mouth shut and just let things progress normally they might have ended up together.

Tim's life really sucks right now and his life would probably be a hell of a lot better if I had just kept my fucking mouth shut.

Amazon could make such a dramatic improvement by adding a simple "this item is not appropriate for this search" clickbox.

That way the users could force the sellers to correctly list their products or to face downranking in the search results.

I mean, you're not wrong, but it seems like a shopping website that refuses to show you the thing that you are looking for doesn't want your business.

Amazon is incredibly bad about this. If I did not have to use it for work, I would not use it at all. I deactivated my prime account 5 years ago and I have not regretted it one second.

Now though, eBay is doing the same thing and that really sucks. AliExpress also does this. It's getting to the point where you simply cannot find what you are looking for unless you are so specific that whatever search algorithm they are using simply cannot choose to show you something else about directly explicitly lying to your face.

And I don't think that using a third party search engine to find the specific part number of the item you're looking for so that you can find it on the shopping website that makes its money by selling you the things that you want to buy is a good solution.

I think there are some people who just go around downvoting everything without reading it or comprehending it.

In my opinion if you're going to downvote something, it should either be so audaciously bad troll posting that it's self-evident or you should follow up your downvote with a reply.

Possibly. The thing is I'm not trying to sing like death metal or anything I just want to be able to put the occasional scream onto a song like Dave grohl does.

He can transition from clear vocal to distorted vocal and back cleanly, and I would like to be able to replicate that for my own music.

Womp womp

I suppose. What process should I share the media through?

That's exactly the kind of information I was looking for!

I'll give it a try! You mentioning it made me realize that every time I've tried to scream I have been tensing and putting a LOT of compression on my voice, which is probably why I can get so loud. I've definitely not tried it without compressing my voice.

Thank you!

I prefer strongly to date women who have a full-time job.

Every time I have bent that rule it has ended in tears.

One, my ex-wife never had a full-time job the entire time we were dating or married. She relied on me for all of the money which to a certain degree I was okay with, but also all of her entertainment.

To her, me coming home from work was an opportunity for us to spend time together, an opportunity to alleviate her boredom.

And of course, I was working hard so that we would have a happy home, so I get it, but because of that it required me to be "ON" 24/7.

I couldn't come home and relax or play video games or have personal time to de-stress because she had been bored all day and wanted company.

The more I tried to explain this to her, the more upset it made her, the more it made her feel like I thought she was a problem, or that I resented her for not working.

I tried repeatedly to tell her that she was my wife she was the person I was working to make sure she was happy just that I needed an opportunity to recharge my battery so that I could give it my all and with the current system I could not recharge my battery and I was flatlining.

I put up with it for years bringing this up on a regular basis, and I guess because I was not a total asshole about it, she just let me keep bringing it up rather than agreeing that something needed to change.

I wanted her to have a job because when you work it gives you purpose in your life. I wanted her to have a job because when you work it brings extra money into the household, which would have been all her money but she would have had money to spend.

I wanted her to have a job because it gave her an opportunity to talk to other people and to interact with other human beings and also so that we would be generally at the same energy level when we got home from work.

A lot easier to recharge with someone who's also recharging instead of attempting to charge someone who's depleted while you're depleted.

Ultimately it led to our relationship falling apart.

There were other factors on top of this but we couldn't address those because the bear in the room was I was completely exhausted and she was fucking miserable and I did not possess the wherewithal to both be a full-time provider for the household and a full-time caretaker for a fully grown adult woman and a good and loving husband and a good friend to her.

She wanted the Moon and the Sun and the stars and the asteroid belts and the planets and the kuiper belt and the Oort cloud and I made it to the Moon and the Sun and the stars and I just couldn't make it any farther.

So yeah, got to have a full-time job to be in a relationship with me. You got to have your own shit going on so that you're not 100% relying on me to be your end all be all for your entire life because I'm only barely enough for myself and I don't have enough to take on an entire additional human being on top of that.