Lemmy people are not happy because this guy is
this post was submitted on 26 Feb 2025
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Misery likes company, not perspective.
I think honestly another way to put it is that pain and suffering are merely unpleasant signals intended to actually prevent you from dying. Death itself is a lovecraftian horror.
I think I'll take the unpleasant signals.
I do believe this was made with best intentions but it has major "just be happy" energy and is made from a position of privilege.
Just getting a therapist for example is a huge battle. Having supportive friends is not ubiquitous. Changing jobs is risky and in certain financial circumstances almost impossible, especially with dependents.
That said I approve of the message that without living there is no possibility of things getting better. My advice is to focus on small maybe even tiny victories daily making lifestyle changes where possible.
It's more true to say that you can't find a better life if you don't continue living. But that's not a guarantee that you can.
Survivorship bias. In this case also quite literally?
You're not wrong but fuckin hell, that's one way to put it.
indeed, sometimes your reward for perseverance is more suffering!
That's the spirit!
(but you're right of course)
Because of the way comments are ordered, I thought for a second that you were replying to the guy saying "being a ghost might be fun too"
Being a ghost might be fun too. But I have no rush :)
I'd go further and say that you can, but might not
Ok so if I can't afford to find even a simple therapist finding a good one lol !
Always those with money giving life advice.
Just take the money from the rich. And if you are hungry eat the rich.
https://openpathcollective.org/ provides a long list of therapists that work on an affordable, sliding scale
US only and still 30$ to 70$ per session !
Well ig you can find a good friend or a crack head to vent to if nothing else works out. Anyway, hope things work out for you in case you are in need of one.
Well wouldn't any other country offer therapy for free? Is it counted as medical care?
They think they have figured out some other secret other than freedom to make mistakes because they have the financial backing to make them is what sets them apart.
Life is full of people thinking that if other follow their exact steps it will work without realizing the things they have differently, such as money and resources, even just skills or biological quirks, do make quite the difference in being able to followed.
I'm not against them sharing it worked for them but that's as far as I feel it goes.
Just because the variables are different doesn't mean you can't find a correct answer. There are no two situations that are the exact same. The comic is just a success story for motivation.. is it really that deep? Pessimism must be exhausting.
In life there really isn't correct answers. There are your answers. Everything comes with a heavy dose of reality being complicated.
I would say it doesn't really speak to motivation. Their motivation was to leave everything behind and start over which isn't very motivating past being able to do so. It doesn't lead to happiness it just changes the days you have which may feel better while it still feels new.
Everything we share is a chance for others to understand us more. It might not be deep but it is a perspective shared that I'm just pushing back against.
Is it really pessimistic to just disagree with a point of view that I find to be a poor message or is it that way cause you want to assume the motivation is correct to handling life?
Why can't it just be that this is my perspective that I share out for others?
Life is also full of people thinking that if others followed their exact steps there would be no way they could turn their life around. They're often just as wrong.
Yeah, the logic seems sound but is a bit what-about.
The problem is that it is a lot of luck and some strong resolve but the luck is very important.
People should grab the reigns of their life and try to get out of a bad situation but if life paths barely work for motivation then life paths to get out of sharing the same odds does make it quite the uphill battle.
I just want to recognize that as trying so hard to get that perfect life turnaround is like winning the lottery and while people shouldn't stop trying I don't want them to be burned out by the lack of response to their efforts in this complicated world.
There are almost always ways to get help if needed. You just have to want to find it and be willing to accept what help is given.
The comic reads more like "I had an intrusive thought once, and mistook it for being suicidal".
...good thing he alread had friends, a plan, and a therapist... Oh, and a lake to visit regularly at night. Smacks of privilege.
Oh shit blaming the victim
Now Lemmy is cooking for sure
At least he had alcohol! At least he had a wife to leave! At least he had suicidal thoughts! Imagine being that upset at a guy turning his life around from the brink of suicide.
Sooo.... Pushed a huge reset button on their relationships and...
I still don't get this. This kind of advice doesn't exactly work for anyone but the person speaking. No one can exactly follow the life of another as we are all completely different.
I guess the point that you have some level of free will and can make personal choices is new to some people but that isn't a fix and doesn't really resolve anything for depression.
It's trying a different tactic to handling life but it negates what was causing them misery in the first place. Which is the monotony of life itself to a degree.
This tosses all that in favor of denying finding purpose for just exploding your existence to see if you can build it new in a way that might make you happy but likely will need another reset when it stops working.
I just don't get it.
I don’t think this is advice as much as it is a story. The advice is “find a better life, whatever that life is.”
That's very much easier said than done. Aa life is often not so easy to find a better version of but more often a different version.
The advice of stay alive because at least you keep experiencing new things is good advice. Trying for better is a nice idea but a message of do what it takes to make your life "better" is... Fantasy in a way that feels off to me.
I could tell the story of the night I tried to drown myself and all that changed since then but it wouldn't be better persay. Just changed. The story would sound like meandering prose and little purpose.
I don't understand the myth of better. It causes misery more in those that do not find it.
You're right. But if someone I care about is choosing between suicide and explode their relationships, I hope they choose explode their relationships. I'll be there when they figure out whatever is next. (I know because I have been for someone who did. I'm not delighted with how they handled things, but I'm glad I still have them.)
Oh I am always in favor of life. Suicide is messy, painful and leaves a lot of people with less in their life.
It's just not a solution as much as a new start point searching for something that doesn't exist and will likely lead you back to having to do it again.
People can do what they need to or want but I see no comfort for those that follow trying to get a better life. That is why I feel sad seeing people recommending it I guess.
We don't find utopia on the other side of tomorrow, just more tomorrows.
"better" =/= "utopia"
They don't have to mean the same thing, it's an expression. And quite a nice one at that.
Sure. I use words that I find match more to the tone of meaning I intend to convey rather than a 1 to 1 of repeating it for the sake of repeating it.
Do you have anything to add to this other than that 2 words I used are not identical?
I'd be interested in your take on reality rather than a pedantic interjection to make it so you feel like you contributed.
Please share if you have more but I will consider using simpler prose if that's all you want to add.
What a twat. Those two words mean different things. A frog would be able to extrapolate my point. Blocked.
What's with the attitude?
Did you read his response?
Did you? I thought you blocked them.
Yeah, after I read it lmao
Think, Mark! How would it make sense the other way around?
You don't take well to being called a pedant, do you?
I don't want to accuse you of being an alt without proof but you're acting very weird here tbh. You didn't respond at all either.
Anyways, no, that part didn't bother me (I am a pedant, after all). I just want to only be called a pedant if I'm not making a relevant point.
I'm clearly not going to convince you, and I don't want to interact with people who act the way you do if I can't hope for you to change. You're going on the list too, pal.
What an almost hilariously awful response.
I'm probably better off blocked by you but what an utter disappointment to being offered to offer more to the conversation.