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[–] Krauerking@lemy.lol 11 points 21 hours ago (2 children)

Sooo.... Pushed a huge reset button on their relationships and...
I still don't get this. This kind of advice doesn't exactly work for anyone but the person speaking. No one can exactly follow the life of another as we are all completely different.

I guess the point that you have some level of free will and can make personal choices is new to some people but that isn't a fix and doesn't really resolve anything for depression.

It's trying a different tactic to handling life but it negates what was causing them misery in the first place. Which is the monotony of life itself to a degree.

This tosses all that in favor of denying finding purpose for just exploding your existence to see if you can build it new in a way that might make you happy but likely will need another reset when it stops working.

I just don't get it.

[–] pennomi@lemmy.world 71 points 21 hours ago (1 children)

I don’t think this is advice as much as it is a story. The advice is “find a better life, whatever that life is.”

[–] Krauerking@lemy.lol 1 points 21 hours ago

That's very much easier said than done. Aa life is often not so easy to find a better version of but more often a different version.

The advice of stay alive because at least you keep experiencing new things is good advice. Trying for better is a nice idea but a message of do what it takes to make your life "better" is... Fantasy in a way that feels off to me.

I could tell the story of the night I tried to drown myself and all that changed since then but it wouldn't be better persay. Just changed. The story would sound like meandering prose and little purpose.

I don't understand the myth of better. It causes misery more in those that do not find it.

[–] MajorHavoc@programming.dev 14 points 21 hours ago (1 children)

You're right. But if someone I care about is choosing between suicide and explode their relationships, I hope they choose explode their relationships. I'll be there when they figure out whatever is next. (I know because I have been for someone who did. I'm not delighted with how they handled things, but I'm glad I still have them.)

[–] Krauerking@lemy.lol 1 points 21 hours ago (1 children)

Oh I am always in favor of life. Suicide is messy, painful and leaves a lot of people with less in their life.

It's just not a solution as much as a new start point searching for something that doesn't exist and will likely lead you back to having to do it again.

People can do what they need to or want but I see no comfort for those that follow trying to get a better life. That is why I feel sad seeing people recommending it I guess.
We don't find utopia on the other side of tomorrow, just more tomorrows.

[–] Feathercrown@lemmy.world 6 points 20 hours ago (2 children)
[–] TeryVeneno@lemmy.ml 3 points 19 hours ago

They don't have to mean the same thing, it's an expression. And quite a nice one at that.

[–] Krauerking@lemy.lol 0 points 19 hours ago (1 children)

Sure. I use words that I find match more to the tone of meaning I intend to convey rather than a 1 to 1 of repeating it for the sake of repeating it.

Do you have anything to add to this other than that 2 words I used are not identical?
I'd be interested in your take on reality rather than a pedantic interjection to make it so you feel like you contributed.

Please share if you have more but I will consider using simpler prose if that's all you want to add.

[–] Feathercrown@lemmy.world 0 points 19 hours ago* (last edited 19 hours ago) (2 children)

What a twat. Those two words mean different things. A frog would be able to extrapolate my point. Blocked.

[–] Ilovethebomb@lemm.ee 1 points 16 hours ago (1 children)
[–] Feathercrown@lemmy.world 0 points 15 hours ago (1 children)
[–] Ilovethebomb@lemm.ee 1 points 15 hours ago (1 children)

Did you? I thought you blocked them.

[–] Feathercrown@lemmy.world -2 points 10 hours ago* (last edited 10 hours ago) (1 children)

Yeah, after I read it lmao

Think, Mark! How would it make sense the other way around?

[–] Ilovethebomb@lemm.ee 2 points 6 hours ago (1 children)

You don't take well to being called a pedant, do you?

[–] Feathercrown@lemmy.world 0 points 1 hour ago

I don't want to accuse you of being an alt without proof but you're acting very weird here tbh. You didn't respond at all either.

Anyways, no, that part didn't bother me (I am a pedant, after all). I just want to only be called a pedant if I'm not making a relevant point.

I'm clearly not going to convince you, and I don't want to interact with people who act the way you do if I can't hope for you to change. You're going on the list too, pal.

[–] Krauerking@lemy.lol 2 points 19 hours ago

What an almost hilariously awful response.

I'm probably better off blocked by you but what an utter disappointment to being offered to offer more to the conversation.