The original post by @spujb@lemmy.cafe was a woman wearing a shirt that says "Italians do it better". Someone asked what they do, and drag explained the joke as best as drag understood the intention, though drag disagrees that Luigi killed that CEO. It's not a call for violence, it's an explanation of a joke. Other people interpreted the joke the same way.
Less than an hour later, Flying Squid banned drag for that explanation, and for saying Luigi is not guilty. According to Flying Squid, referencing the CEO shooter case and saying Luigi didn't do it is a call for violence. Expressing support for Luigi Mangione is a bannable offense on LemmyShitpost.
EDIT: The Picard Maneuver responded to drag's appeal and reversed the ban. Drag will be deleting this post as it is no longer relevant to the current state of affairs on Lemmy Shitpost.
Drag thinks we're confusing a couple of things in this conversation. You're talking as though the only possible implementation of neopronouns is that everyone has to use them. But as this conversation proves, that's not true. Drag is perfectly capable of using drag's pronouns even if you don't. If we consider the case of neopronouns only being used by people who care more about respect than convenience, then the only problem with them is that grumpy people will start arguments for arguments' sake. And that can be solved by simply not doing that. It seems to drag that a lot of people are complaining about being forced to put in extra effort to respect drag, while they casually put in extra effort to complain about drag. Drag certainly thinks it would be an improvement if most people did neither.